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How To Avoid Being Part Of The Divorce Rate

There are many statistics that reflect the rising growth of divorces amongst married couples.  Some websites and authorities on divorce rates actually list the divorce rate percentages of many countries.  These percentages vary between 70% to under 10%.

To avoid being part of the growing divorce rate, it is important that couples work at their marriage to maintain the strength of their union.  Two specific areas that can cause marital strife, if not given the proper attention, are in the areas of communication and money.  Therefore, to avoid being a statistical part of the divorce rate it is important to develop these two key areas in a relationship.

Communication

Communication is a cornerstone in building a successful relationship.  Communication between married couples can be defined as the sharing of thoughts, feelings, a touch, a look, etc. 

In addition to these features of communication another important component of a successful marriage is listening to one another.  This listening aspect of communication is a multi-faceted discipline to ensure that the marriage does not become another statistic that adds to the divorce rate.

Listening can be defined as the full attention given to the spouse when they are speaking.  In order to perform this discipline properly, it is important not to formulate your response before the marital partner has finished their thought.  Also, listening accepts the individual’s thought and does not place a judgment on that expression.  The listening partner simply accepts that thought and thereby honors the expression of their partner.  In addition, a listening skill that is developed hears not only what the other person is saying, but what the marital partner is not saying.

Money

An additional area in a marriage that can negatively impact the relationship and add to the divorce rate is the handling of money or finances in the home.   Often partners hide money, spend excessively or don’t spend at all.  Also, there may be incidences where either partner spends impulsively with secret credit cards.  These actions can not only negatively impact the finances of the couple, but can lead to significant financial problems.

Of course, the core issue is not so much the money that is spent, but speaks to a trust issue. If there is considerable secrecy surrounding the finances between a married couple the trust between the two individuals erodes. This erosion eats at the trust fibers between the couple, resulting in mistrust and nagging questions, which eventually cause the marriage to collapse.