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Why It's Good to Wait for Marriage Until You
Know One Another
Since there is a prevalent high divorce rate for newlyweds,
it’s good to wait for marriage until you know one another on
many levels. This can take the form of dating, a long-term
relationship, or even developing a bond or commitment with an
old friend. A marriage between two people confirms a commitment
to one another, and even though it is often confused with
romantic notions of an easy life, it does take a lot of work
and energy.
It’s good to wait for marriage until a deep relationship has
been established. This can take anywhere from one month to one
year. It can take as long as three years. The important thing
to remember is that each person has the capacity to grow,
develop, and evolve. If this is not done as a couple, or is not
even acknowledged, the marriage has a low chance of survival
simply because it is not natural.
A healthy and long lasting marriage has a few key qualities. It
is based on the foundations of honesty, trust, commitment, and
open communication. Trust can take a very long time to build,
especially if one of the parties involved has been unsuccessful
in establishing long-term relationships in the past. There are
number of ways to improve trust and trust building exercises
can help to nurture a relationship.
Naturally, trust can be built with open communication,
consistency, and a basic understanding of each other’s needs.
It also involves respect; respecting each other’s differences,
acknowledging that there may be different viewpoints or
perspectives on an issue, and finding ways to resolve conflict
effectively. This further increases the chances of getting to
know one another, as you can gauge how the other manages
stress, conflict, time, and their general attitude and
perspective on life.
Getting to know one another involves learning about likes and
dislikes, and perspectives on controversial issues or topics.
It also involves being comfortable around the person, and
working with their overall presence or social movements.
Listening is critical here, and learning your partner’s
listening and relating skills will help to strengthen the bond
between any couple. Sharing feelings, how they express
themselves in a healthy way, and having confidence in one
another are also key elements of getting to know each
other.
Offering help and extending gratitude are all part of the
process; a healthy couple will learn more about each other,
their tastes, preferences, and general well-being just by
spending time together and learning from each other. Being
flexible and open to new ideas is important, especially in the
early stages of the relationship. This can be a prime learning
time, and generate additional interests.
Ultimately, couples must work together in order to succeed in
establishing a healthy relationship and marriage. Getting to
know one another is important before marriage so that trust and
commitment can be built without worry. Insecure relationships
are a result of lack of trust or communication; this can be
greatly minimized by honoring each other over a significant
period of time, and developing healthy boundaries and
connections in the process.
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